Talking with Your Kids After a Tragedy
This week has been heavy. The tragic news of a public leader being killed has shaken many people, and for many families it comes right on the heels of remembering September 11—a day that already carries weight in our nation’s history.
As parents, it can feel overwhelming to know how to guide our kids through moments like this. They’re hearing things—from friends, social media, and even just catching bits and pieces of the news—and they’re processing it in ways that might look different from us. Some will ask big questions. Others may not say much at all but still feel uneasy inside.
So how do we help? Here are a few reminders as you walk with your kids:
1. Create Space for Honest Conversation
Don’t worry about having all the right answers. What your kids need most is your presence and your willingness to listen. A simple, “What have you heard about what happened?” can open the door.
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” —James 1:19
2. Keep It Age-Appropriate
Younger kids don’t need all the details—just reassurance that they’re safe and that God has given us helpers. Middle and high schoolers may want to talk about why things like this happen or what it says about our world. Meet them where they are, not where you think they “should” be.
3. Point Them Back to God’s Word
Tragedies remind us that the world is broken—but also that God is with us in the middle of it. Share simple, steadying truths like:
- “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” (Psalm 46:1)
- “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:21)
- “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” (John 1:5)
4. Remind Them of Hope and Their Role
Our kids can feel powerless in the face of national tragedy. Remind them that while they can’t fix everything, they can choose kindness, respect, and prayer in their daily lives. Jesus calls us to be peacemakers and lights in the darkness.
“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” —Matthew 5:9
5. Pray Together
Don’t underestimate the comfort of simply praying as a family. Pray for those who are hurting, for peace in our country, and for God to help you show His love to others.
A Resource for You
We’ve created a Parent Conversation Guide that breaks down simple ways to talk with your kids about tragedy, with practical tips for elementary, middle school, and high school students.
You don’t need to be perfect in these conversations. Your kids don’t need a polished answer—they need you. They need to see your faith, your honesty, and your hope in Christ.
We’re with you as you walk through this.
—Pastor Jody